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Monday, April 19, 2010 To Understand and AcceptNo matter how much times have moved forth rapidly, some things simply don't change. Especially, when it comes to human mentality.Some of us still laugh at people who are different. We can go on endlessly on the various nicknames for fat people, skinny people, short people, tall people, punk rockers, the mentally unstable and sadly, even those who are physically challenged. Though some of us have tried to evolve by keeping our comments to ourselves on differences in physical appearances, we have crossed over to being critical of people's lifestyles instead. We comment if people not married, if they do not have children, if they are unemployed, if they are gay, if they are not educated enough, if they are not rich enough, not gracious enough and what not....The list goes on. No one ever seems to be good enough. For once, if all of us just step back and try to understand the picture, we will realise that everyone has a story behind to explain why they are the way they are. Not to be mistaken for excuses. Excuses are when you know you're wrong and you're giving reasons. Most of us just simply have different lessons to learn and we're given different predicaments to learn from them. I'm not sure about the rest but I'm a firm believer of fate. And yes, I also believe that we have choices. To cite an example, let's put it this way. Today, a woman's position in most societies is still questionable though we're thankfully growing with times. Nonetheless, we still face limitations due to some societies' mentality. Hence, being born as a woman is my fate. I can't change that. But I have a choice as for how I accept and grow gracefully as a woman in any society. Therefore, my call to everyone is to not laugh at anyone for their fate. Something I wish to remind myself as well for I have my moments which I am not very proud of. And as always, my opinion shall follow with a story to explain that some things happen as it is fated. Long time ago, there was a scholar in China who had turned 25 and he was still not married. He sought a fortune-teller who told him that it's his fate to get married at the age of 40 for his bride has just been born! The scholar did not like what he heard. He was not prepared to wait that long. He learnt the whereabouts of the baby girl and one fateful night, he sneaked into her home and stabbed her in the chest. The scholar got away scot-free, feeling contented that the obstacle in his path has been removed. Years passed by and marriage was not possible for the scholar till he was 40. His newly wedded wife was a young bride of 15 years of age. On their wedding night, the scholar noticed a scar on his wife's chest and enquired. She narrated the story that was told to her by her parents. When she was a baby, an assailant had sneaked into her room on a fateful night and stabbed her. By God's grace, she survived it. The scholar's face turned livid.  Some things are meant to be. Best to accept them and accept others for them. The rest that can be improved, we should only seek to improve in ourselves. |
